Working Together

The First Step

The first step in working together is scheduling your 90-minute consult, where we will uncover what is going on, and determine whether we will be a good match to create the changes you desire.

Some of you may be thinking that 90 minutes is a lot of time. In Fairfield County we are all so conditioned to run at top speed all day. The idea of taking time for yourself can be hard to justify.

It is for exactly that reason that I spend at least 90 minutes to get a clearer picture of what has brought us together.

Whether we end up working together or not, you will definitely walk away with more insight into what has been gnawing at you, as well as how you can start to create the change you have been searching for. 

I’ve gained an immense amount of confidence, feel empowered to reach for my goals, and have learned to show up for myself. Not only this, I have learned that my darkest moments can be imperative to change and progress.
Alex A

I help create that secure support that allows you to move from where you are to where you are headed.

Once we have decided to work together I typically start with three to six sessions after the first consult in order to get a better idea of how you process change. So much happens beyond a session; actually, that is where the majority of the work happens.

Session time is valuable and unique, but it is when you are back in “real-life” scenarios that provide us with more pieces of the puzzle. I will understand how you manage implementing the changes needed for your desired outcome, and how much real-time support you need in order to stay the course.

Like a bridge over troubled waters, I help create that secure support that allows you to move from where you are to where you are headed. As you cross over the bridge, it is in the middle where you are no longer staying in your safe, comfortable place. But you are not far enough into claiming your desired life, so things can get a bit rocky. The middle is where all the growth happens, but there will be moments of shaking ground. That is where our partnership will play a critical role.

When we make big enhancements to our lives, we expand and contract until the enhancement becomes second nature. Even in the new rhythm of being, we will still come up against obstacles, people, old triggers, and situations that will challenge our footing.

We are human and not impenetrable; how we respond to stressors will be dramatically different than before we started working together.

Everyone Is Different
My reason for requiring a minimum of three sessions to create your custom plan is that it takes a few sessions to uncover what is at the root.

Our bodies and minds have ways of “protecting” us; typically, what the heart wants to share won’t be revealed until we get past the gate keepers. This time will also allow me to understand how quickly and comfortably you create change.

Everyone is different. Some people are fast changers, and some are slower. Faster doesn’t mean better; it is just how someone naturally moves in life.

Actually, it is not uncommon for the slower changers to be more deliberate about change and less likely to slip back.

Slower to get there, but solid once they make that switch.

My Work with You is Customized
In those early sessions, we will also uncover other players in the picture who may affect your ability to make the changes you desire. For example, it could be you coming in to get clarity around something that continues to show up in your life that no longer serves you.

Perhaps it’s how to handle a particular situation or make a change in part of your life. Or it could be that coupled with your partner feeling threatened by your changes, so now your dealing with a relationship change as well.

Maybe you are building more independence but still live at home. You may find your parents put pressure on you to do what they feel is best, and you find it hard to stay the course. Or you might be dealing with a change in your family and are unsure how to handle it. Those discoveries will help me gain insight into what type of coaching would benefit you most.

If someone in your life up to this point has played a significant role in your decision-making and you are now trying to hear your own voice, then creating a more access type of coaching might serve you best in the beginning.

It is not uncommon for me to start with an individual, only to bring in a parent or spouse as we uncover things that might have a major influence in preventing growth.

However, if the problem is simpler with fewer potential triggers, a specific number of sessions without extra access might be the right fit. After meeting a few times we will know what direction to take.

After talking briefly about what I wanted to work on, Holly skillfully eased me into the technical aspects of the breath work. In a session with Holly, I was able to release deeply held grief and anxiety and begin exploring a new level of living where more joy can surface, be felt, and be shared.
Maria A

Business Owner

Since my work with you is customized, it can always be tweaked and enhanced as you gain strength and confidence, and learn how to manage your stressors.

From the beginning, my goal is to get you to understand yourself better and be able to carry what you desire into all aspects of your life.

As you change, our coaching relationship will change. As you go through your stages, so will our coaching.

I’ve gained an immense amount of confidence, feel empowered to reach for my goals, and have learned to show up for myself.

Not only this, I have learned that my darkest moments can be imperative to change and progress.

Alex A

Who I Work With

My clients range from teenagers and older. I work with individuals, couples, and families. Most of us are connected to larger units than just ourselves. In order to sustain change, sometimes we need to bring in others to clear up old habits and create new ones.

The topics we cover are varied, but everyone comes in as a healthy person who may be feeling lost or unsure in one or more aspects of life. If you are dealing with serious emotional challenges from abuse, trauma, addiction, or anger, I am not the right fit for you. Please find someone who specializes in those areas to get the help you need.

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